Attachment in Action: How Tiny Promises Build Big Trust

When I got back, I hadn’t yet seen the boys because I was at work when they arrived home. While I was still away, they turned to their dad, my partner, and asked, "Do you think Luna brought the jerseys? Or maybe she forgot?"

His reply? "Come on, you know Luna. How many times does she promise something and not do it?"

Their answer, without hesitation: "Never."

They trust that if I say I’ll do something—I’ll do it. That kind of faith doesn’t happen overnight. It’s the result of countless small moments of showing up, following through, and being emotionally available. It’s the quiet magic of attachment at work.

Then, to top it off, the boys turned the conversation back to their dad: “But Dad, you sometimes don’t do what you promised.” And he, with humility and a smile, said, “Yes, I know—I need to work on that.”

That moment made something deeply clear to me: our kids notice everything. They may not always talk about it, but they are constantly measuring whether the adults in their lives are safe, consistent, and reliable. These experiences shape how they trust, how they relate, and how secure they feel in the world.

Attachment isn’t built on grand gestures. It’s built on the everyday things:

• Showing up when you said you would.
• Listening without distraction.
• Keeping even the smallest of promises.

And when you see it reflected back—like I did through this story—it’s a beautiful reminder that the effort is worth it.

So yes, I brought back the jerseys. But more importantly, I brought back a deeper sense of connection, security, and trust.

Want to build deeper trust with your kids?

Start small. Be consistent. And let them see that your word means something. 💛

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